jueves, 27 de agosto de 2015

The Only Child

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  1. After read that text, I am disagree with the only children get more attention of their parents, and that create a complicated situation, because the children it do more bratty and "spoilt", clear that depend the education, maybe the only children have a lot toys, and many space where to play, but always there is loneliness. The text say both situations. I agree with there aren't a better form, that depend of the family, the think.
    In my opinion is better have siblings, because though there are discussions,always there are love, and friendship, always you're going to have a friend for to play, to talk, in case of need a short advice.
    I have friends, they are only child, and they said is better, others say that would prefer have siblings

    Jennifer Guillén Rivera
    CCC Décimo

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    1. Hi Jenn: After reading this text, I disagree with...
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  2. I personally do not agree to have only one child and that parents often give him everything he asks the child, and this becomes quite cocky and spoiled but of course this has advantages and disadvantages, the advantages that parents would give much childcare and being an only child can give very good education most of the time and give you a better quality of life but this could turn into a disadvantage as why some children are not prepared for the real world and are all used to be and this is what in society is not only frowned upon but this can never adapt.
    I know many people who are only children and there such as cases in which this is good or bad depending on the breeding parents.
    I personally do not agree to have only one child and that parents often give him everything he asks the child, and this becomes quite cocky and spoiled but of course this has advantages and disadvantages, the advantages that parents would give much childcare and being an only child can give very good education most of the time and give you a better quality of life but this could turn into a disadvantage as why some children are not prepared for the real world and are all used to be and this is what in society is not only frowned upon but this can never adapt.
    I know many people who are only children and there such as cases in which this is good or bad depending on the breeding parents.
    Jeremy Fuentes Araya
    CCC Décimo

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    1. Hi Jerremy. These are the observations:
      You repeated the same ideas too many times.
      The child asks his parents for things not the other way around..
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  3. I think that this situation is relative, because in personal I am only child and I very happy with my life as a children, but I have a lot of cousins with similiars ages that me, and that is an advantage because they still playing all day in my house, then they are like brothers and sisters to me.
    The things that the book says are true but not always. You can be only child and yours parents can love you the same that you aren´t only child.
    Many persons say: If you are only child you parents will buy you evere things that you want, and this is a very big lie, this is true but only in families that have a lot of money.
    I want to finish saying that I´m vere happy with my life as a children an i don´t change that for anything.

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    1. Hi Kimett. Here are some observations:
      ...with similar ages as me
      ... they are still paying
      ... the same as you aren´t an only child.
      everything
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  5. I think that being an only child has advantages and disadvantages.
    When one crese around more children, siblings, develops in us a feeling of copartir.Los parents would not have as much obligation compared if it were to have children, and would be easier to find someone to care for a child not dificultria much.
    When you're an only child becomes chiniado and selfish, but slowly develops a sense of companionship.

    Diana Garro Nuñez

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  6. It´s better to be an only child than to come from a large family. Discuss

    All the families are different but they make the nucleus of the society. A family is form of parents, now a days can even be of the same sex, or responsible for children and children. But couples decide how many child want to have, in the past used to have a lot of kids but in the present is more often have just one or two kids and give tose better conditions and a good education.

    An only child can have better education because is the only child and all the money can be inverted on the child. This child learn to coexist with adults but they become egoist and arrogant, so they doesn´t have good relation with other person when they grow old. Child that come from a large family probably don´t have so much money, but are better with other person. In that families child have to share all their toys and spaces so learn to work in group.

    In my opinion, come from a large family is better because families teach you important things like cooperation that is necessary for all the works, and with a brother or sister you will never be boring.

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  7. In the past was common that the married couples have a lot of children, but nowadays, is common that the married couples have few children, it´s because in our times the best economic and social decition is to have few children because the couples save money and have more time for them.

    The life in a large family is difficult because the children didn´t have the same attention and the parents didn´t have a good economic situtation, to meet expenses that this require. In the education the children can grow with problems for the relations with his brothers and sisters; the parents can contract a baby sister, but it doesn´t same that the education with the parents.

    For the boy or girl the best is to have a good conditions for education and can have recreation with other boys of the neighbors, is important that the children learn play a musical instrument and have privacy in their things and with their parents.

    The best is to be an only child than to come from a large family because we can have a good economic conditions and can have the attention for the parents and family.

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    1. I disagree with you in the part the you say that is better to be a only child because of the money. Its better to come for large families beacuse that way you develop abilities that the money doesn't give you and this way in the future it will be easier for you to adapt to some places. Also you don´t need money to have good education, there are a lot of ways to access to knowledge. It depends on the attitude and motivation of the person, and the idea of helping your family to get ahead is a huge motivation.

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  8. What is better, to have brothers or being an only child?
    Today, many people choose to have one child, in contrast to earlier times where couples could get to have even more than 10 children. The fact that a person has or not brothers is something that will have important consequences in the person’s life.

    It is true that people who are only children have more attention from parents, having brothers can also satisfy the companionship needs . Sometimes only children can have neighbors, family or friends with have a close relationship, however, no matter how well they lead, they can never replace a company that makes a brother, as these are the only ones They will remain throughout our lives in most cases, those who are with us throughout life

    In addition, it also influences the fact that the brother whether or not same-sex, as may be differences, however, the personality of each person can also make or she prefers or may not have brothers, so it remains a criterion very subjective

    In conclusion, the fact that having brothers being an only child is better, is very subjective and depends on the personality of each person, however, a brother would provide us great help and companionship for all our lives, so it could be more advantageous.

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  9. About: It is better to be an only child to come from a large family

    The actual social and economic situation it's too different from the situation 20 years ago, this causes the change in the point of view of the couples about the number of children’s in the family, rarely one family in the century XXI have 4 or more children’s.

    It’s totally normal that tendency, because the human always search the way to live in better conditions, and if the number of children´s it´s a factor should not be a problem if we modify it.

    About be only child or have brothers or sisters, I think that it depends of each person, because we have different way to see the world. But, this don’t mean that being only child or have brothers not does a difference in the children´s live.

    I have only one brother, he is good person and we don't have any problem about share bedroom, school supplies and some things. In my opinion, have a brother or sister its good, because you have a friend in any moment, but if your brother or sister is younger than you it could be different the situation.

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    1. That is something excellent, you as the younger brother can see your brother as a friend who helps you, because he already lived what is happening today for you, can advise him of some situations. Things that if you are child without brothers or sisters could not enjoy.

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    2. I'm glad to hear that you don't have problems at all with your brother and have a good relationship with him.

      I disagree with the fact that if you have a younger brother or sister the situation could be diferent, because you have to asume the paper of a responsable person and take care of them.
      Most of the cases where persons are bad with younger brothers or have a lot of conflicts is because they are jealous

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  10. I disagree with the idea that if you are an only child you will be more confident, becuase if you are the only person that your parents have to take care you will be more insecure, your parents will be the all time over you cuestionating your decitions and the things you do.

    I agree with the idea that sharing space and possessions can cause conflicts such as Fights or discutions, because I have three sisters and when we have to share something we argue, but those situations make you an stronger person, more intelligent capable of solving diferent situations, also the sharing makes you a better person.

    Personal experience
    I have three sisters, almost every day we have a conflict, but if I wouldn't have them my life could have been very boring and sometimes when I'm having a bad realy time they support me and motivate me, also I have met persons who are an only child and most of them are spoilt persons.

    Andrés DAvanzo

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  12. I disagree with two ideas, first with the part that says that being and only child makes you more secure and confident, its totally the opposite because when they are outside the house, they actually feel very insecure without there parents. And second with the part that calls conflict a problem, the conflict isn't actually negative because it helps devolop useful things like the guts.
    I agree with the part that says that the only childs are usually alone, so its more complicated for them to share and to interact with other kids. That conducts the are shown in the childhood are very reflected in other areas in the future.
    My personal experience have teach me that is better to come from a large family, maybe because for me the social part is very important and having brothers from different ages, with different personalities and opinions helps you developing toleration, communication and personal opinions.

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    1. I agree with pipe because, it is of utmost importance in the development of the child, coexistence to be able to improve their skills.

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  13. After reading the text, I have noticed some advantages and disadvantages of being an only child. I disagree with the fact that being an only child or having siblings, is better than the other one. Even though an only kid might get more attention, it does not necessarily mean that a family with more than one child gives less attentiveness to each one of its children (parents can do everything at once). Also, there are cases in which an only child receives whatever he wants, but material stuff is not as valuable as the love parents deliver to the kid.

    If we talk about sharing for a child with brother and sisters, it is not correct to say that they learn to do so; there are two alternatives, the first one is that they acquire the ability, and the other one is that they argue so hard between them, that they become selfish. The same occurs at the playtime. The behavior a kid has –being an only child or not-, depends on the morals, ethics and values the parents have taught him and how they were raised.

    I am talking from a child's perspective, I have mentioned what a kid might perceive and the way it can affect its behavior. Nowadays, parents could decide to raise less children because of the increasing of life cost. Couples with high purchasing power might choose having so many kids, and couples with less purchasing power just an only one; however, it seems to be a tendency that households with no much money to have so many children.

    To sum up, it does not matter how many children a family want to have. What matters, is how the children are raised. An only child can feel like the most accompanied person in the world and a kid with siblings, like the loneliest one. People will always want what they lack, so they always wonder how it would be like to live in a different situation. Neither way of growing is the best or the worst.

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    1. I'm glad to hear that you don't have problems at all with your brother and have a good relationship with him.

      I disagree with the fact that if you have a younger brother or sister the situation could be diferent, because you have to asume the paper of a responsable person and take care of them.
      Most of the cases where persons are bad with younger brothers or have a lot of conflicts is because they are jealous

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    1. I agree in my case I have three sisters and they have tried me many things

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  16. the culture changed over time before women didn't work and they were all day in home so they had a lot of time for to take care the children while the men went to work but now women works and studies just like men, they don't have time for to take care the children therefore the parents have to look a place in where the children are protected this places are expensive and the situation of some families aren't good and they can’t pay the education, feeding and health of the children.

    Have o didn't have a bigger family is a personal opinion it is depend on your tastes and economic situation.

    On other hand to be an only child it has an advantages for example you have more attention about yours parents, and you don't have to share your things, you do not have to agree with your brothers or sisters but if you are an only child maybe you a selfish and antisocial person.

    However if you have brothers and sisters you have to play with you have support, in difficult situations your brothers and sisters can help you, but can that your relation with your brothers and sisters maybe is not be good and you have discussions and could not be a support for you

    Maria Marin

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  19. Personal Experience
    I have been raised with one brother and one sister. I am the middle one, and I am so happy for being it. Since I was a very little kid, I remember playing with my brother. It was so fun, we always played with our toys, and we liked to draw a lot on chalkboards (since I was the younger one, I had less space than him to draw). When I was so young, I always wanted to be like him, he was my example to follow, but not anymore. I was even happier when my sister born. I could see her growing up, we play together so much, and we learned to share and live. I tried to give her all the knowledge I had, I even attempted to teach her to read when she was five; guess what, it did not work as I thought.
    Now that we all are grown up, we trust each other. Even though as the time passes we argue so much, and the gap of personalities is bigger than ever, we always know that we can count with each other and advise ourselves. Also, one has to be open-mind, because younger generations like my sister, can teach important lessons that one has never perceived.

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    1. I agree I have three sisters Michelle who is the oldest and two small I have very beautiful memories of when I played with my older sister and she has helped me in many situations, it is also nice to have small sisters sometimes it is tiring to have them to take care of but I can not imagine life without my sisters

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  20. I do not agree with the idea that a child has better development because he is a single child, because having siblings is easier for him to socialize and act independently.
    I agree that the parents pay more attention and will feel loved by their parents but if it is true, it will complicate a little further away from them.
    In my case I have 3 brothers and thanks to them I learned many things and I was able to develop better in the world.

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  21. Is life better for children who grow up without brothers and sisters?
    Grow up with brothers or sister could be good or not, it depends of how their parents raised and educated them.
    I agree with the idea of "children with no brothers or sister get more attention", in some cases because their parents just have to give him or give her everything and never share those things and I think that is something wrong, maybe in the future that child can be a selfish person that always want everything.
    I totally disagree with being an only child, not because I or someone become a selfish or " spoilt" person, but in life you have to share things, have a good relation with groups of people to develop a project, you have to learn to listen and ask for forgiveness when its necessary and not by authority (like the parents).
    In my case, I have a half-sister and she is like one more person, sometimes she helps me, other times she ignores me, she hates to share clothes with me and I hate sharing my material things with her. We have fought like any family, but my mother says "You cannot go alone in life, learn, share and respect." I do not want to be an only child, because I tell her personal things, but I would have liked to have many more sisters and at least one brother.

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  22. Classmate’s experiences
    In high school, I had a classmate that was an only child. She never showed concertation about it. She was happy for being an only child, and she did not feel sad for being “alone”. There is just one thing that she always complained: her parents were overprotective. Since she was the only one, she said that they might be afraid of losing her and not having “another child”. I know it sounds cruel, but it was her perception. In general, she affirmed that being lonely at home made her appreciate the company of her friends, and it did not interfere with the developing of social skills.

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    1. Classmate’s experiences
      In high school, I had a partner who was oan only child, and she always wanted to have a brother or sister and parents overprotect her on many occasions

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  23. Before stablishing a position about how bad or good is having or not brothers and sisters, I would like to comment a little bit about my personal experience.
    My family is still one of those large ones of more than 5 children, we are six children in total, 5 boys and an older sister. I am 18 years old, and I am the youngest. However, the point of view of youngest child and the oldest child one can be very different. Since my opinion I think that having older brothers is in general disadvantageous by many factors; for instance, my parents didn´t like to waste money on things we already have, so all the old clothes or toys that were bought to my older brothers were the things I used. That´s why, depending on the family, the youngest child will tend to inherit most of the old and “dirty” things older brothers left.
    Since the perspective of the older child, for example my sister, the panorama changes a lot, because she/he as the older will be probably spoiled by his/her mom. Well, according to the opinion of my brothers and sister, in my case it wasn´t exactly like this, they use to say that I am the spoiled (spoilt) son.
    This is probably because of the feeling mothers have with their last son or daughter. It doesn´t mean it´s the same for an only child and the last child, the main fact that can be declared as very similar into an only child and the last child is the special threat parents have with that child.
    Nevertheless, it´s different to be the last child instead of an only child, because your older brothers will be there with you, in that sense, you will have someone to play with and in which you can support yourself.
    As a conclusion of all this ideas, I am not completely convinced to adopt a specific stance about this matter, I am agree that having a lot of brothers (sisters not so much) can sometimes be very difficult, because of the argues and the inheriting of the possessions. As the youngest child, I am also agree with many ideas of the text, for instance, the help brothers can provide to smaller brothers in terms of relationships is very important. That´s why, I am disagree with the title of the text, because it is better to have a couple of brother that can support each other.

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  24. In the past the families used to have a lot of children. Nowdays the couples prefer to have only one or any child. Grow in a family alone, being a child without brothers, can be difficult but have some advantages.
    Don’t have brothers means that you can have anything that you want like toys or videogames. An only child can get the best of everything. Being alone and having all the attention of your parents can feel very attached to them and have a great relationship.
    It is wrongly thought that the lack of siblings with whom to share experiences means that these children do not learn to cooperate or have difficulties to socialize. But it is known that it is a myth. The coexistence with siblings is not necessary for the only child to develop better in their social and affective relationships.
    Being an only child has many advantages such as: the only children to spend most of their childhood with no one to play with, develop their imagination and creativity more, are more independent and curious. These children do not have to compete with their siblings for the love of their parents or the territory, which makes it easy for the child not to lose his or her own, and it is easier for them to share their things, they feel less jealousy and envy.
    To sump up by having more contact with adults than with children in their home, they may further their psychological development, possess a greater degree of self-confidence. In addition, these children have at their disposal all the resources that their parents can give them, stimulate them more intellectually and support them academically.

    Josue Saiz, Cristiana Cantillo and Jairo Gutiérrez. CCC

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  25. It’s better have 3 or 2 children in the family, because if you have only one son or daughter in the future the child acquires some violent behaviors with another child because he doesn’t have brothers or sisters to play with their. Then, when the child must maintain a conversation o know new people, will be more embarrassment to talk with their than the other children that have more family. After, it is more likely that the children, that don’t have brothers or sisters, suffer bullying, because if he is the eldest brother or sister he was more bravery and courage when happen this type of situations and if the child is the youngest he has people to defend him. Later the bullyers should objective the children that are alone or overprotected with her parents.
    On the other hand, the child feel that he was alone when he plays or do any other activity, however, some people argue that this child would maintain a closer relationship with his parents, but other people take the opposite view, for example myself, claim that when the child must be independent will be more difficult than the child that have brothers or sisters.
    If the child life in a large family he will learn to work in group and this situation is a big advantage in his future because when he will have a job he will have to learn how to work in group and he will be more friendly and social with his workgroup.

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